We live in a world where change is the only
constant. Your vision plays a crucial role in how you see changes. Things
change, people also change and sometimes we just don’t take the time to realize
all the changes that have occurred around us or even in ourselves. Life would
be indeed boring if we were to stay at the same point and not have the chance
to explore the different things life has to offer us. Thus, change is another
interesting thing that is very subjective and it all depends on how you define
it.
Ever since we are born in this world, we have all
changed. Beside our physical appearance, our mentality has also evolved and a
strong proof of that is that we all have let our childish habits go at one
point whether it was asking our parents to tie our shoe laces or have them buy
us all the cool toys just because our friends had them. Simple and silly
examples, right? Well, did you really take the time back then to acknowledge
that you weren’t childish but rather getting matured? I don’t think so. I know
at least for myself when I was young, I didn’t really distinguish between being
childish or behaving mature. I was just a child in my own world. Similarly as
we grow up, we get busy with all our commitments and responsibilities, we don’t
really take the time to acknowledge the changes that have occurred. The sad
part about this is that sometimes we think that nothing around us has changed
or that we are still the same when it’s actually not true at all.
We all need changes in our lives so that we feel like
we are evolving from one point to another. I remember when I was younger; I was
told that things will get better as I grow up. That seemed so far away and as
time passed, I got impatient and thought it wasn’t true. To my surprise, I
started appreciating my life but I wasn’t fully conscious about all the changes
that had happened or were happening. There were times where I would be
extremely happy and I really didn’t want anything more from life and other
times where I was not happy at all. Everything was a mystery back in the days.
Now that I think about it and I am sharing it with you here, I will admit that
as you grow up, there are more doors that open for you which then translate to many
more opportunities to explore life.
Life is not a competition with how far the world
has come ahead, so live life at the pace it’s moving for you. Don’t rush
because you’ll miss out on what the present has to offer you. Let me bring an
example here. Nowadays, we often see girls of age 12 dressing up and wearing
make-up as women of age 25. I personally feel bad for them because they are
missing out on what it means to be carefree and not having to worry about their
looks. They will have the rest of their lives to be and look like a woman once
they become adults. I don’t think they realize it now but once they reach their
twenties, they will feel like there’s nothing exciting left in their lives as
they will be done experiencing too much at a young age. What they also need to
understand is that it’s easy to act like a woman but it’s much harder to learn
how to become one. This latter applies to guys also; looking like a man from
outside when your inner thoughts don’t reflect that maturity will not take you
far in life.
Changes are needed in life and some that make
people happy could be listed as follows: travelling around the world, buying
their own house or car, being in a relationship, getting a new job after every
once in a while, completing a school degree, following the latest fashion, doing any simple
fun activity, etc. There’s no one better than you who knows what type of change
is needed in your life, so find out more about your likes and dislikes. You
absolutely don’t need anybody around you to tell you that this type of change
would be good for you. You know what your limits are and your budget (if the
change involves financial resources), so make your own decisions wisely. Now
you may wonder if the changes I listed previously are the only changes that can
make one happy. My answer is “No”.
Things change around us very quickly and
constantly but the biggest change would be to change the thoughts in your mind.
As I stated in my welcome post, growing as a better person never stops. There
is no one who is perfect in this world. We all have strengths and weaknesses.
The key element in changing yourself is to be aware of your weaknesses and finding
ways to turn them into strengths. It’s not easy, sometimes it takes several
years to understand and express in words what your weak points are. I’ve been
through this and I was confused for so many years with my weaknesses. I was
really unaware of some traits that were obstacles with the good human being I
wanted to be. As soon as I found out what I didn’t like in myself, it was much
easier for me to work on them. We need to change so that we can accommodate new
things that happen in our lives. When we change, we find better or different
ways to handle situations and this is crucial to be successful in life.
Therefore, self-realizations are probably the best discoveries in life because
they allow you to feel the changes in your mind and they truly make you feel good
about yourself.
As we are exposed to different environments, we
meet new people among which some affect us a lot. In other words, some people
in this world really have the potential to change other people’s lives. They’re
not only positive about themselves but they also recognize the good in others
and they’re not afraid to help others evolve towards the better. There’s a
saying by Michel P. Watson that I want you to always remember: “Strong people
don’t put others down. They lift them up.”, so whenever you come across someone
who tries to put you down, that person is probably not strong enough. It may be hard to believe (even I have a hard
time believing in this) but there are still people who are selfless and are
willing to help us by pointing out the best things in us. They are able to make
us see that we have more strengths than weaknesses. It’s strange but when I
least expected anything from people around me, they were always the ones who
made me see the best in me. On the other hand, those from whom I expected a
little support were the ones who made me face the “weak me” that I didn’t want
to see. People in our lives are full of mystery. I personally wish that you are
all surrounded by good and well-wisher people so that you can let go of those
who are constantly looking in pointing out your weaknesses to you. You don’t
want to develop self-esteem issues so keep a distance from selfish and
heartless people. Some people will never change from the inside no matter how
much things change in their lives, so just be cautious!
To sum up everything I just shared with you, change
should be seen as something that makes you move forward in life and it must be
for the better. Nothing is impossible and if you have a new vision of someone
you want to be, then make the necessary efforts and become the new person you
wish to be. Bring some changes to your life that will make you feel better and
let the happy, strong and positive people take part in your journey as they
will definitely add something valuable to your life.
